I work with a lot of people who share with me that they feel like they could cry forever if they let themselves. There is a fear that if they open the floodgates, they will keep flowing endlessly, to the point of making it difficult to function.
In my many years of experience, the tears always find a place to pause; and if that takes 2 weeks, 2 hours, or two months, then that is what your body & soul truly needs. I emphasize needs, because your body knows what it needs whether your thoughts agree or not. Especially when we are talking about a mind / body relationship that isn’t fully integrated and healthy.
And here is a crucial bit of priceless information about what tears are made of:
Protiens (Including Stress Hormones like cortisol!)
The tears you cry, when you feel deep emotion have a high concentration of stress hormones in them -that the body needs to get rid of.
Knowing this, doesn’t it make you want to cry as much as your beautiful eyes want? I makes me want to. We have enough things going on in our daily lives that the more stress we can release the better! ❤️
Autoimmune Flare-Ups are a warning sign. They are meant to tell us our body is entering into a toxic state and that we need to shift the way we create, feel, hold, and ignore stress. I have treated many people who were diagnosed with autoimmune disorders and those who came out from underneath the drowning feeling of disempowering symptoms all had one thing in common, they were incredibly stressed out before the autoimmunity issues began, and the stress was what they dealt with.
The list below is oversimplified. Please ask me for any clarification. It is also in note form and is not complete. It is a starting place for a conversation.
Stress (emotional, physical, spiritual)
Nervous System Regulates Stress
Allergies & Autoimmune Crisis
Lymphatic System flushes histamines, oxalates, toxins, etc…
Swimming or Health Bounce on the Trampoline
Balance your opposite disposition (ie: if you are feminine, more masculine activities, and vice versa)
Breathwork (Morning: Priming / Evening: Calming) + Mindfulness meditation
For someone who has been abused at an early age, an unhealthy sense of boundaries can develop as a result. It can show up in many ways.
An abuse survivor will often have memories of a loved one (usually older) violating their trust and boundaries; and when it came time to say no they felt frozen or in some way unable to say no.
Sometimes a survivor might find themselves always worrying about what others are thinking. They track others constantly in order to guage whether or not someone they are with might suddenly want to violate their personal space. Sadly, if this space is about to be violated the tracker often allows it. It is a lose lose situation where a person is always on guard but when the time comes to act the learned action of inaction takes over, thus perpetuating the dysfunctional cycle of worrying about others while still allowing them to violate one’s self.
Another way a survivor’s boundaries can be blurred is by the desire to always be in the good graces of others, wanting to please them above one’s own needs; as learned during the initial abuse. This can impact one’s ability to show up authentically, and instead create an ability to adapt for all types of personalities in order to be able to make anyone happy. This creates obsessive compulsive traits, perfectionistic traits, and belittles one’s own life essence as less important than being approved of by others. Because of this, one might often choose to do something for another because it makes that person happy, even if it violates one’s boundaries.
These are just a few examples of the long reaching potential ways of being that can manifest, after someone’s boundaries and trust are violated during a time in their life when they are developing their way of navigating life. It is only when we can begin to see such patterns while also acknowledging our past trauma, that we can finally start rewriting our operating system and self identities to reflect what WE truly want.
Have you ever had an experience where you are stretching your body (like in yoga), or you are having a chiropractic adjustment and you suddenly feel as if an emotional dam has burst and it all pours out of you at once?
Often times just past the pain threshold or a bodily position that has felt like a wall you never push past, lies an invaluable opportunity. The chance to release stored emotion and energy that you have likely been holding on to for a long time. This type of holding on of the non-physical is the most common condition that manifests physical conditions like fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, frozen shoulder etc…
As counter intuitive as it may feel at the time of suffering, the most direct route to being free of the physical symptoms you are experiencing is to go into that pain and have an internal conversation with it. To develop a new, different way of relating to it. As opposed to regarding it as unwanted, not welcome, and inconvenient; greet it internally as a welcomed guest that you actually hold compassion for. While being welcoming and compassionate to the pain barrier you have finally physically pushed into, declare to the universe and yourself that you surrender, let go of controlling that part of your body.
When you truly surrender and let go of control in the area of your body where you are experiencing physical pain, and when you welcome it lovingly, that is when the dam will break and all the emotional poison you are holding on to that is causing the condition will pour out. Yes, this might be intense, you may cry, shake, feel fear and/anxious; that’s OK. Feel it all, acknowledge it all as it moves through you and let it go simultaneously, -don’t hold on to it any longer.
Life is not just happiness and roses. When you can embrace both sides of life your body will respond accordingly. ❤
One of the most common things that I work on with my clients is recognizing and disempowering their past way of being.
There is who you are right now. There is who you have been. And there is who you want to be.
Who you want to be does not often fit with your past way of being. When threatened, your past way of being can employ: -Disruptive panic -An eruption of unstoppable emotion or derailing action
For many people, their past way of being has had ultimate power over them for most of their life. They made a decision at a young age usually to move through life with a certain operating system. Ultimately as people mature, they innately want to grow out of this old and stagnant way of being. You want to feel in control of who you are, as you in the present moment, not your past way of being dictating a stale and unhealthy sense of self.
When experiences present themselves to you as opportunities to change and operate differently from your past way of being, it can feel threatened and often employ whatever it can to distract you, to take you off course and ultimately prevent you from taking your power back; in a way that would inevitably affect it’s ability to influence and keep you from transforming.
Your past way of being is not the voice of God and it is not the source of universal life force energy speaking directly to you. It is your voice of doubt, protection, fight or flight, and self preservation that IS there for a reason, but when left to its own devices WILL run rampant and act as if it IS God. If it can, it will make you believe that too.
Recognizing when you are free versus when you are limited by your past mode of operating is the beginning of stepping into your own power to change.
It is your choice to remain under the your past way of being’s influence, or to embark on the journey up the endless steps of limitless self empowerment.